• Nidhi bhakuni

Embraced children-- keep away from emotional illness

Emotions, a typical word with a soft expression

There are many facets of emotions, happiness excited, sad, depress, upset, irritation, anxiety

Everyone is driven by emotions,

in fact, it's not wrong if I say that every human being is filled with emotions. they use it to express that, what exactly they are feeling.

emotions are language, which can be understood by expression. but it's not same for everyone.

for example - everyone is excited to visit goa in your family but you are upset as you wished to go somewhere else as have visited goa many times before.

the situation is the same for everyone but the level of emotions are different.

actually, emotions are not connected to situations, emotions are driven between expectations and reality.

humans are driven by emotions and emotions are driven by our mindset, or can say by our brain. now it depends on us, we fight for our expectations or accept the reality.

somehow the degree of the process depends on how much we have learnt and how we have learnt to handle all issues before.

I must add here that, to some extent, it is decided with our upbringing too.

there are a lot of facets of emotions and a lot of ways to handle them.

one of the most effective ways is hugs

yes... HUGS...

I am sure you have heard about "JADDU KI JHAPPI"

this is a very effective method to control the emotions without any word if used on the right time.

I am sure you are thinking that what big deal.....its simple people need hugs when they are sad. that time our hugs console them a lot oopsssssssss........................................

sorry to upset you

normally we hug people in 2 scenarios

1. when they feel sad

2. when we feel happy But here is important to focus on one thing that we don't like to hug everyone and don't like everyone's hug too.

have you think ... WHY?......

To understand this statement, we need to go through more details....as to how hugs play role in emotions, how is it connected and its benefits

HUGS- A Therapy

Hugging therapy is definitely a powerful way of healing. Research shows that hugging (and also laughter) is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress.

Research shows a proper deep hug, where the hearts are pressing together, can benefit you in many ways.

How it works

This is the universal truth that we all are made of energy. when we hug someone, actually we exchange our energy. positive energy heals positively and removes all negative impact of thoughts & feelings. what degree of energy or emotions will be travel from one to another, it depends what you feel about that person.

for example:- if you hug someone with love and affections, it cures that person and increase the feeling of security, and increase the degree of positivity.

if you hug someone compassionately, it heals him and consoles him.

if both people feel love and affection to each other and hugs then it heals to both of them.

if you hug someone without any feeling, it helps no one both of them can feel that it was a formal hug.

Now it can be understood how beneficial it can be to embrace the child by the parents.

we need to know the right time to hug to embed the right pattern in the brain.

How It embeds a pattern in our brain:-

still, we feel different and special when our parents toch us with love or hugs. it runs a different level of energy in us.

if I am right you are thinking that, yes we feel because we have an emotional connection with them, and we are their part so we feel different..... somehow it's true.....but the reason behind this is little different.

when we do (are done) an activity regularly, then our brain set a fix emotional pattern and release the same emotions when we revise that activity again.

The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.

for example:- Once a boy lost his mother and was crying badly. everyone was trying to console him and giving a hug, or holding his hand. This sequence lasted very long. he was in deep sorrow as had much emotional connection with his mother. after sometimes he turned to his normal life routine. after a year his one of relative came and discussed again the death of his mother and hugged him, suddenly he started to cry again and begin to miss his mother again. Now you must have the perception that he was attached very much to his mother and still not stable with the setback.


this is not the reason behind that.when his relative discussed his mother's death his brain took him back and as he hugged him, his brain recognized the related pattern and released embedded emotions.

What we should do to inspire the emotions of children in the right direction.

As we know now, that cuddle of parents drive the emotions of children, so we need to be careful about our activity.

Hug your child when:-

1.you feel happy

2.s/he does anything good

3.you want to appreciate their efforts

4.when they play with you

5.when they share their good activity with you

6.when they are feeling happy or excited

sometimes you may show your love with your eyes(by blinking for while with lovely expression)or to touch their cheeks with affections and may move your hand into their hair. it creates an emotional connection with your child, increases the flow of confidence in them and embeds a positively effective pattern in their brain.

Avoid any emotional activity when a child is travelling into any bad emotions.


you got it......

for example:- The child came to you crying, you first hug him to silence him. and this has happened many times. Now his mind understood this action and took captivity. Now whenever you hug the child, his mind will again remind him of the eccentric feeling and the child will try to find anything to complain about.

If the child is going through a bad experience or is emotionally unhappy, then sit down and ask him the reason, talk about it and give the child a sense of self when he gets quiet and feels a little better.

Thus his mind will always be embedded with good experience and will make a positive outlook.

Benefits of hugging:-

Virginia Satir, family therapist, said, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

1. Hug builds trust. This helps with open and honest communication. 2. Hugs can instantly boost oxytocin levels, which help us to heal emotional illness. 3. Holding a hug for an extended time, elevate mood and create happiness. 4. Hugs strengthen the immune system. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease-free.

My side trail you all lots of hugs , everyone hugging and trail hug very often their children and emotionally Create a strong relationship with them, And remember that you will hold all the same world of good.
Keep hugging your child and keep away them from all emotional illness

Nidhi Bhakuni

Parenting & Career Excellence Coach to have more parenting tips you may join our parenting community and may subscribe our youtube

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